What does the word Focus relate to? For years, I found myself caught up in observing what others were doing rather than focusing on my own unique path. I've been on a journey to realise that prioritising ourselves and our desires brings a profound sense of fulfilment and contentment to our lives. Conversely, constantly focusing on others can often lead to feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, and even resentment.
My own experience of prioritising others over myself led to burnout. Despite being kind and helpful to everyone else, I couldn't shake off the feeling of being drained and washed out. Neglecting myself in favour of others took a toll on my well-being, sidelining my own needs and leading to persistent feelings of not being good enough.
I've witnessed individuals who prioritise their children to the point of hampering their own lives. While it's crucial not to neglect our kids, it's equally important to allow them the space to navigate their own journeys, make mistakes, and learn from them. Constantly being there for them might seem supportive, but it can hinder their personal growth in the long run.
I'm not suggesting that we abandon our children; there will always be times when we need to be there for them. However, constant involvement can hinder their ability to take charge of their own lives. As they grow into adults, it's essential to let them live independently, make their own decisions, and forge their own paths.
Failing to strike this balance might prevent them from truly understanding themselves and their lives. If we insist on controlling every aspect of their lives, they may become overly reliant on us, hindering their personal development. It's crucial to offer guidance and support when needed and to give them the space to learn and grow independently.
The mantra "You cannot live anyone else's life but your own" deeply resonates with me. We have only one life, and living it for ourselves is paramount. Many clients I've worked with struggle with time management due to obligations to others, and I always emphasise the importance of prioritising oneself first.
While doing things for others may seem commendable, it often doesn't lead to personal growth. Seeking recognition for altruistic deeds is often ego-driven rather than soulful. Many social media trends, like TikTok videos showcasing acts of kindness, highlight this desire for recognition and profit.
The greatest gift we can give ourselves while alive is to focus on our own well-being, regardless of others' opinions. Finding peace in self-awareness and staying true to our beliefs allows us to follow our soul's guidance. Concentrating on personal happiness, embracing our uniqueness, and striving to be the best version of ourselves are worthy endeavours.
The spotlight should be on the only person that truly matters – ourselves. The more we focus on our personal growth, the better equipped we become to help others when necessary.
Focusing on ourselves creates a more fulfilling life aligned with our true selves, leading to greater happiness, self-confidence, and overall well-being. So, let's try to begin with ourselves and our needs. Let's take the time to figure out what we want and need and then take action towards those goals. By doing so, we'll be able to achieve our full potential and live a truly fulfilling life.
In Love, Light, and Blessings.